So my exhusband is suing me for custody.
The is the second time he’s tried to do this and each time, his litigious nature is made evident. He’s intending to wear me down emotionally and financially. His ultimate goal? I can only speculate…
To not back down.
To not roll over.
To not be bullied.
To be an advocate for my son.
I’m not worried about my emotional well-being. I’m a tough cookie. I’ll do my best to protect my kidlet from any knowledge of this situation. But one thing I do need help with is this: my legal fees.
Last time he took me to court, I had to pay my attorney a $5000 retainer. I don’t know what my ex paid for his attorney, but I do know that, after a trial that lasted nearly a year and a half — in and out of the courtroom and mediation — the judge dismissed all his requests and ordered him to pay my legal fees (to the tune of $17,000). We ended up settling out of court for a smaller amount because I felt terrible about the huge settlement and wanted to be fair. I used the settlement to repay my mother for the loan (that she put on her credit card — she didn’t charge me the interest) and used the remaining balance to pay a couple of bills down.
Altogether, I estimate that we’ve spent nearly $30,000 between us in legal disputes that he has initiated. He has yet to win a case.
But I’m all out resources. I’ve tapped my parents dry… The rest of my family are all working-class folks that don’t have money to loan.
So I’m swallowing my pride and I’m asking for help. I don’t know what it will take to retain my lawyer yet, but I’m going to assume it will be at least $2000.
If you love me and have been following me or reading my blogs or maybe if you just stumbled upon this page by some divine intervention… If you’ve got anything you can donate to my legal fund, I can’t even measure how grateful I would be to you. There’s a Paypal donate button at the top of the page. If you want to treat it as a loan, I’ll do my best to honor it as such — just know, full disclosure, I won’t have any substantial amount of money coming my way until the beginning of next year at tax time.
I won’t let someone with a bigger bank account bully me around.